Frog in the well

It sounds kind of sad, but I think I'm a frog in a well. The world is much more bigger and complex than it seems.

"A frog in a well does not know the great sea." - Chris Bradford

The quote.

"There's only one corner of the universe you can be sure of improving, and that's your own self." - Aldous Huxley

Seems like I found a great quote for my blog. Yes, rather than complaining about the world or the society, how about trying to improve the world by improving our own selves?

How to love...

Thinking of what can make my relationship better. Since I was always a bad lover, I concluded I should improve on love. I googled "how to love" and the first relevant website said that we should love by:

1. Say it   2. Empathize  3. Love unconditionally  4.  Expect nothing in return  5. Realized it can be lost

Wow, I think I'm missing some of these. This actually makes me think that I'm a even worse lover. I definitely forget to think in my partner's shoes many times when we fight. Definitely not loving unconditionally. And obviously I expect something in return, like love. I love you. No matter what, you deserve my love, and I want to give it the right way.

Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love. - Leo Buscaglia


If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back they’d never ask you to. - Anon


It's not about right or wrong, it's about if she's happy about it or not. - Fiona 

Hate less, love more.

Out of those things, I'm thinking I need to do basically all of them. Most importantly, I'll try to whine less, and hate less. And hopefully good things will be mine.

"Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things are yours." - Swedish Proverb 

Be honest.

Please be honest to your important ones. It's beauty.

Romance - Pretty self explanatory. Be honest. Honesty is so hard, at least for me. But after all, don't you just feel a lot better when you don't have to lie/hide about everything? I used to lie my butt off with my ex's. When I thought I have everything in control and I'm just so happy playing around, I was wrong. Now I'm completely honest in my relationship and I feel so good. How could I lie to someone I love? How could you? If that someone is worth it, then please give your vary best and stay completely honest.

Friend - Once I asked my friend, "how important am I to you?" "very," she replied. Then [some story happened]. I don't know what you usually mean when you say someone is important to you, but if I say it, I mean it. Important at a good way, important in my mind, life, and action. And I would give you my respect. Please be honest when you say things to a real friend and act on it, because maybe that person would be the one to help you when you're down. But friends do come and go, and why waste time at someone that's not worth it. So now we're just normal acquittance, in my opinion.

“Honest hearts produce honest actions.” - Brigham Young


“Honesty: The best of all the lost arts” - Mark Twain

It's sad how times can change

It's sad when people you know become people you knew.

When you can walk right past someone like they were never a big part of your life.

How you used to be able to talk for hours and how now, you can barely even look at them...

It's sad how times can change.

Beastly.

I just watched the movie Beastly this weekend. And, watch it.

Open your eyes, and feel the world. Don't just make yourself a better person, also choose who's better for you. It's the inside that matters.

"Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not physical."
- Sophia Loren