Time flies

First of all, Happy New Years! I really can't believe how fast time flies by and how forgetful I can be. It's been so long since I wrote here.

One of the most striking thoughts I've been having is that you don't always get a return from what you give out. This concept is so obvious, yet still upsetting. I know I do this a lot, but I think it's something that can never be overdone. Thanks to people who cared, helped, and loved me. I appreciate all of you. And just a reminder, please sit back and take the time to thank who cares for you, and to the people who actually made an effort to care for you. 


"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."  - Frederick Keonig 

Escape anger

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”
忍得一时之气 免得百日之忧


Isn't this true? There are just things that we always regret of doing after we calm down. Just take a deep breath and calm down when you're mad, maybe that would give you a better life  than what you have right now. 

Life without a destination, you are lost. Having a friend to find you when you're lost, then you just find yourself a destination. 

Frog in the well

It sounds kind of sad, but I think I'm a frog in a well. The world is much more bigger and complex than it seems.

"A frog in a well does not know the great sea." - Chris Bradford

The quote.

"There's only one corner of the universe you can be sure of improving, and that's your own self." - Aldous Huxley

Seems like I found a great quote for my blog. Yes, rather than complaining about the world or the society, how about trying to improve the world by improving our own selves?

How to love...

Thinking of what can make my relationship better. Since I was always a bad lover, I concluded I should improve on love. I googled "how to love" and the first relevant website said that we should love by:

1. Say it   2. Empathize  3. Love unconditionally  4.  Expect nothing in return  5. Realized it can be lost

Wow, I think I'm missing some of these. This actually makes me think that I'm a even worse lover. I definitely forget to think in my partner's shoes many times when we fight. Definitely not loving unconditionally. And obviously I expect something in return, like love. I love you. No matter what, you deserve my love, and I want to give it the right way.

Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love. - Leo Buscaglia


If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back they’d never ask you to. - Anon


It's not about right or wrong, it's about if she's happy about it or not. - Fiona 

Hate less, love more.

Out of those things, I'm thinking I need to do basically all of them. Most importantly, I'll try to whine less, and hate less. And hopefully good things will be mine.

"Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things are yours." - Swedish Proverb 

Be honest.

Please be honest to your important ones. It's beauty.

Romance - Pretty self explanatory. Be honest. Honesty is so hard, at least for me. But after all, don't you just feel a lot better when you don't have to lie/hide about everything? I used to lie my butt off with my ex's. When I thought I have everything in control and I'm just so happy playing around, I was wrong. Now I'm completely honest in my relationship and I feel so good. How could I lie to someone I love? How could you? If that someone is worth it, then please give your vary best and stay completely honest.

Friend - Once I asked my friend, "how important am I to you?" "very," she replied. Then [some story happened]. I don't know what you usually mean when you say someone is important to you, but if I say it, I mean it. Important at a good way, important in my mind, life, and action. And I would give you my respect. Please be honest when you say things to a real friend and act on it, because maybe that person would be the one to help you when you're down. But friends do come and go, and why waste time at someone that's not worth it. So now we're just normal acquittance, in my opinion.

“Honest hearts produce honest actions.” - Brigham Young


“Honesty: The best of all the lost arts” - Mark Twain

It's sad how times can change

It's sad when people you know become people you knew.

When you can walk right past someone like they were never a big part of your life.

How you used to be able to talk for hours and how now, you can barely even look at them...

It's sad how times can change.

Beastly.

I just watched the movie Beastly this weekend. And, watch it.

Open your eyes, and feel the world. Don't just make yourself a better person, also choose who's better for you. It's the inside that matters.

"Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not physical."
- Sophia Loren

If you want something, earn it yourself.

Today my mom bought me a book called the 1001 Things Every College Student Needs to Know. When I was flipping through the pages, I saw this, "you need to know your parents are destroying their 401(k)s to send you to school. If you come home whining about how hard college is and how bad you need a vacation, they will just look at you and turn the sound up on Law and Order." Then she was telling me about someone we know is whining about how everyone but her has a good ___. (I won't say what that is, just in case the person is here). Well, let's say it's a computer.

She was complaining how bad her life is because she has no respect from others and people look down at her. She thinks is because her "computer" is so much worse than the other people's. Then I thought to myself, her "computer" is brand new and her parents probably had to work so hard for that, how could she complain about such thing? I also thought to myself, maybe she should realize that her friend's are not adoring her because of her personality, not her properties. People won't think she's awesome because she owns a macbook instead of a dell laptop. On the other hand, if she had earn her own money and bought the dell laptop herself, then she deserves some respect for her achievement. If she had appreciate her parents for the dell laptop and make productive use of it, then she deserves some respect for her good personality. If I can, I really want her to know, if you want respect, earn it, not buying it. If you want a luxury object, then buy it with your own money, not your parent's. Too bad I can't find a way to tell her without her getting mad, so I hope one day she'll stop by and let this post change her.

"When you're a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance.”  -- Sasha Azevedo


"There are no short cuts to any place worth going." -- Beverly Sills

Appreciate what you have.

Appreciating is a hard thing to do. Before you realize anything is gone, is gone. So why not enjoy them while you have the time? Enjoy having your mom nagging at you, because before you know it, she's going to be old. Then, like me, you'll regret all the time you wasted playing computer games instead of shopping with her, too busy thinking about your miseries than appreciating the shelter, food, and love she provided you, and many more. How ever busy you are, take a break, and take time to spend time with your important ones and start appreciating. Because that's the only way to make you a happier person. And for the ones who read my post earlier, keep up with your goal! Hopefully I'll keep up with mine also, so together let's become better people, and live better.

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”

- Frederick Keonig