No title..

We live in a world with titles. Students, teacher, parents, good, bad, hard-working, lazy, etc. Sometimes it is those titles that define us. I've been trying to do the same: to give myself titles, to define myself. Well, I came up with nothing. Just blankness.

Maybe it is because of the uncertainty I have. Uncertainty of the future, uncertainty of life. I am uncertain of what will happen tomorrow, but I can still enjoy and have a meaningful today. So I guess I will let the titles come when they want to..


The path, the unknown path that everyone has to go through. 

"Titles are but nicknames, and every nickname is a title." - Thomas Paine

"Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Jacob Bronowski

If you still have a chance to say sorry, would you?

I would. Apologizing for my fault makes my heart at peace even though the other person is also wrong. I started this post 5 months ago. Never got to finish it because a part of me is telling me making my heart at peace is just a selfish way to make me happy. 


Maybe, maybe making sure other people's heart is at peace is better. 


Or maybe, maybe one day all apologies would come from heart, and others would take and accept apologies to the heart and learn to forgive. But one difficult thing is, if I'm having trouble doing that myself, how can I convince others to do so?





"An emotionless apology is an insult to an injury." - unknown

“Apology doesn’t change the past, but it widens the future.” - unknown

“Apologizing with heart requires strong character.”  - unknown

"Saying sorry doesn’t mean there isn’t guilt and forgiving doesn’t mean the pain is gone." - unknown

"Nobody can bring you peace but yourself." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Time flies

First of all, Happy New Years! I really can't believe how fast time flies by and how forgetful I can be. It's been so long since I wrote here.

One of the most striking thoughts I've been having is that you don't always get a return from what you give out. This concept is so obvious, yet still upsetting. I know I do this a lot, but I think it's something that can never be overdone. Thanks to people who cared, helped, and loved me. I appreciate all of you. And just a reminder, please sit back and take the time to thank who cares for you, and to the people who actually made an effort to care for you. 


"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."  - Frederick Keonig 

Escape anger

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”
忍得一时之气 免得百日之忧


Isn't this true? There are just things that we always regret of doing after we calm down. Just take a deep breath and calm down when you're mad, maybe that would give you a better life  than what you have right now. 

Life without a destination, you are lost. Having a friend to find you when you're lost, then you just find yourself a destination. 

Frog in the well

It sounds kind of sad, but I think I'm a frog in a well. The world is much more bigger and complex than it seems.

"A frog in a well does not know the great sea." - Chris Bradford

The quote.

"There's only one corner of the universe you can be sure of improving, and that's your own self." - Aldous Huxley

Seems like I found a great quote for my blog. Yes, rather than complaining about the world or the society, how about trying to improve the world by improving our own selves?

How to love...

Thinking of what can make my relationship better. Since I was always a bad lover, I concluded I should improve on love. I googled "how to love" and the first relevant website said that we should love by:

1. Say it   2. Empathize  3. Love unconditionally  4.  Expect nothing in return  5. Realized it can be lost

Wow, I think I'm missing some of these. This actually makes me think that I'm a even worse lover. I definitely forget to think in my partner's shoes many times when we fight. Definitely not loving unconditionally. And obviously I expect something in return, like love. I love you. No matter what, you deserve my love, and I want to give it the right way.

Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love. - Leo Buscaglia


If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back they’d never ask you to. - Anon


It's not about right or wrong, it's about if she's happy about it or not. - Fiona